For those recovering from problematic sexual behaviors (PSB), treatment is more than understanding the underlying cause or recognizing harmful patterns. It also involves developing the ability to resist the urges often accompanying these behaviors.
Known as PSB triggers, these stimuli can arise unexpectedly, making it challenging to maintain control. However, that does not mean you are powerless. In this article, we shed some light on various strategies to promote healthier behaviors in the face of triggers.
The foundation of managing PSB triggers lies in building self-awareness. Individuals seeking long-term recovery, must learn to recognize the internal and external cues that precede their problematic behaviors. Then, understand the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that accompany them. Common triggers include:
Keeping a journal is always a helpful tool for tracking this information. Not only does it provide a tangible record, but it also helps identify PSB triggers and patterns over time. As you become more aware of your emotions, thoughts, and environment, you will become more adept at anticipating potential triggers and responding to them proactively.
With PSB triggers identified, the next step is to manage the cravings through healthy behaviors that stop you from engaging in harmful compulsive ones. These coping mechanisms aim to reduce the potency of the triggers, essentially diminishing the influence they have over your actions and decisions. Practical coping mechanisms include:
By developing a toolbox of coping mechanisms, you arm yourself with a variety of alternatives that keep you prepared for any situation.
No matter how aware we may be or how many coping mechanisms we have developed, the truth is some PSB triggers are unrelenting. Due to this, it is equally important to set boundaries – clear limits that protect us from succumbing to harmful behaviors, such as:
As you navigate around PSB triggers, set specific but manageable goals to maintain a sense of purpose and direction. Whether it involves abstaining from PSB for a certain period of time, reducing the frequency of compulsive behaviors, or developing healthier coping strategies, these are all milestones for progress.
Additionally, reward yourself every time you reach a goal because, on the road to recovery, no act of willpower is too small. Every achievement is worthy of celebration. Not only does it reinforce positive behaviors, but it will keep you looking forward.
When it feels like there are too many temptations, remember that professional help is always available. Mental health professionals who specialize in PSB can provide the guidance and support you need to overcome specific urges and challenges.
Similarly, you can reach out to support groups, which are invaluable resources in times of need. They offer a non-judgemental and understanding environment where you can share your experience, receive advice, and find encouragement from others facing similar challenges.
Resisting urges in problematic sexual behaviors is challenging, but it is achievable. From building awareness and setting boundaries to seeking professional help when needed, there are many ways you can reclaim control and lead healthier, more fulfilling lives.
Paradise Creek Recovery is here to support you in identifying PSB triggers and developing healthy strategies Our residential treatment programs for men offer holistic care in a safe and compassionate space. Contact our team today at (855) 442-1912 or email [email protected] for more information.
